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Building Trust Without Collaborating

Wait, what?

In my latest book on 60 ways to build trust, collaboration is highlighted as the best way to deal with conflict. And yet there are situations when it’s appropriate not to collaborate, too. In 1974, Kenneth W. Thomas and Ralph H. Kilmann published an insightful tool that indicates how a person uses five forms, or “modes,” of handling conflict: avoiding, accommodating, compromising, competing, and collaborating.

When it comes to trust-building, I usually work with clients to find the way forward that allows mutual safety, transparency, and assertiveness, which requires some amount of time and risk-taking from both parties. Given this ideal context, let’s look at when to employ the alternatives to collaboration.

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This is our Moment.

With this post, I may end my political aspirations, but it’s a price I’m willing to pay. Before I make my point, in fairness, I begin with some personal disclosure. I grew up in a white, middle-class family in Ohio, USA. Boy Scouts and baseball were my things. I was...

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Trust Culture: Can We Level with Each Other Here?

Trust Culture: Can We Level with Each Other Here? No, just no: virtual collaboration is not the same as doing so in-person; it’s not even a close approximation. The idea that online tools can replace authentic interpersonal communication is a delusion. I teach trust,...

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Building Trust Professional Leadership Coaching Services

I love helping fellow professionals to get unstuck. For me, that means being willing to sit still, listen fully to a person, understand each challenge’s nuances, and then suggest proven ways to tackle it. For the coached, it means transparency, vulnerability, and a willingness to step out from comfort.

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New Building Trust Executive Director

Building Trust is excited to announce a new team member! Deb Komer joins Building Trust in February 2020 as Executive Director. Deb's responsibilities include business development, marketing, building client relationships, scheduling, invoicing, and several other...

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